This blog is a sharing of a dialogue in marriage. A daily dialogue is the practice of marriage encounter, which is a style of daily communication. The experience provides a pathway for a couple to grow in love. When we share our feelings in written comunication we can share our feelings more deeply.
Friday, December 10, 2010
How do I feel when I see a nativity scene?
Dear Walter your most endearing quality today is taking a day off to help paint the soccer fields.
GENEROUS
When I see a Nativity scene I feel inspired by the gift of family. The ispiriation is recognizing that God uses family to manifest His word, His love, His peace. That inspires me to recognize God's will for our family. We can walk in His will confidently as a family.
This inspired feeling is an affectionate feelin
a color that orange red mix kind of a warmth of color
My inspired affection would taste like hot cocoa with marsmellow melted on top.
Inspired affection would sound like the popping of wood from a nice wram fire.
Walter I love you. Lets pray that our family stays in the inspriation and the love of the holy Family.
Wednesday, December 1, 2010
Dear Walter your most endearing quality today was giving me the goodbye kiss this morning.
Okay one thing that would make it easier for me to open up to you is if all the events in my day were positive. I enjoy sharing the positives, but I hold back on negative experiences. Sharing the negative events cause a natural criticism to arise. I am hard enough on myself so I don't share these negatives very easily. For example, this morning I was driving home and this lady just drove her car into mine. It was jolting, but not really damaging so I didn't do anything and either did she. Now I immediately begin thinking of all you are going to say to me in our dialogue, like "you should have this or that or the other thing" and that is what keeps me from sharing more openly.
The feeling is hesitant restrictive.
A restrictive feeling is like the feeling you get just before you faint....the lights go out ....boom.
This restrictive would taste like the salsa at Rosarita's...it is so hot that you can not continue to eat it.
My restrictive feeling would be like the speed limit on McDonald Drive....Like, who can go 25 miles an hour? Much too restrictive.
I rank my restrictive feeling a 7.
I love you. Lets pray for our Advent to continue in prayer and love and hope and eager anticipation.
Dearest Marcy; Your finest quality today was coming up with another good dialogue question.
One thing that would make it easier for me to open up to you is when things aren't right (or going wrong); is if you were not so reactive to these things. It is good to see them; but hard to open up to you when they your focus.
My feelings are mixed. I know that things will not always be postive and negative things will have an adverse effect on us. However, it is easier for me to open up if negative things can be discussed in hope of finding a positive solution.
I love the way that you are taking an interest in many of the things that happen in our household. It makes me feel bonded to be able to share with you openly.
This bonded feeling is like super glue and the brick; very strong and supportive.
This bonded feeling is how I felt when we first met; and how I feel when we have some time to ourselves to just relax and talk.
This bonded feeling is how I feel when we hug in the morning; or go out to eat with the whole family.
If it were a color - white for Elmers Glue.
A food; too much peanut butter in ones mouth; good, but sticky.
Scale of 1-10; stuck on ate (8).
Love Walter; Lets pray to be more open with each other.
Tuesday, November 23, 2010
Dear Walter your most endearing quality today was waking up...you know.
I do believe in miracles...I do...I do....I do! I know that there are different kinds of miracles the personal, the public church miracles, the Eucahristic, they go on and on. I think of miracles a little differently, so I am willing to notice them more often. A miracle to me is simply when I notice God at work. It shocks me. It startles my soul. So when I go to church and see the transubstantiation YES it is a miracle, and I am able to witness it. That is daily and that is big to me. But there are little witnesses of God's direct involvement in our home and in our life and those are the ones that keep me attentive, and watchful.
Thes miracles make me feel loved by God. Loved. This loved is like living in freezing weather conditions but in the home there is great warmth fireside warmth...conversations of warmth, meals filled with warmth.
This loved would look like a clean house where everything was in it s place if only for a moment...that feeling is wonderful.
This loved is like talking with an old friend and feeling like our conversation never lapsed but had only waited for another meeting.
The ranking of my loved feeling would be a nine.
Walter I love you lets pray for a holy Advent season and that we as a fmaily even extended prepare and are found ready and eager. Amen
Dearest Marcy;
Your finest quality today was not getting too mad with me for working so late.
I do believe in miracles; and that miracles can come in all sorts of ways. Sometimes just being able to see that each day brings new hope and promise is a miracle. I also believe in the more stunning miracles in life.
I feel ok sharing this with you. It is not much to share; but I do believe in miracles.
This ok is not a shoulder shurging "ok" response to a request. It is more of; yes, it is good to share this. Maybe I could call it an Obvious Knowing feeling.
It would be like sharing a quite moment together around a fire in family room; a warm, I love you feeling. An OK; it is so comfortable.
If it were a color; any color is ok.
A sound; not me singing; but you signing.
A food; Don Jose' when it re-opens SOON.
Scale of 1-10; a KO 8.
Love Walter; lets pray for accepting mircales.
Monday, November 22, 2010
How have we shown respect for Christ in our lives?
Dear Walter your most endearing quality today is going to be when you tell me how to fix the kids bathroom water leak. You are my Fix it man!
Okay, how have we shown respect for Christ in our lives. I think firstly, that we have allowed our marriage to be led by our Lord. We have not dictated but have submitted. There is a blessing in that submission to the will of God that is: just --good--true--beautiful--inviting.
This is such an enlightening feeling. It bears warmth.
This warmth would taste like a hot cocoa on a very cold day, after sledding. It is the kind of warmth that melts away the frozen cold feeling and immediatley soothes.
This warmth would sound like the song silent night...a quiet peaceful warmth.
This warmth would be a hug and kiss from you.
Walter I love you. Lets pray for all the family's in our path. Lets pray that God's blessing and enlightenment will lead them in a peaceful way, and that they recognize God's lasting love.
The rank of my feeling of warmth is an 8.
Dearest Marcy; Your finest quality today was spending quality time with me this morning.
We have shown respect to Christ in our lives by living the sacarement of marriage and in sharing our lives with others throught WWME.
I feel very confident that with time, we have grown in Christ and Christ in us. Like the Psalms; Lord, you are the center of my life; I will always praise you, I will always serve you; I will always keep you in my sight.
This confiedence feeling is a warm feeling of comfortable. It is not a self-center confidence; just a warm comfortable confidence. It would be like starting a fire on a cold night knowing that it will bring warmed to the house.
It would be like waiting for the sun to rise while camping; just knowing it will be warm and the forest will soon come alive; and there will be Hot Coffee to sip.
If it were a color; a soft red. If it were a sound; children laughting and playing in the backyard.
If it were a moment; recieving communion on Sunday; recieving Christ in our lives.
Scale of 1-10; a warm 7;
Love Walter; Lets Pray for all children that they learn the way of Christ.
Friday, November 19, 2010
Do you hear our life? Do you feel stronger from the ashes? What are my feelings after listening to this song?
Dear Walter your most endearing quality today was attending St Vincent DePaul this morning with me. I know that it wasn't easy to get away from work for that. A QUALITY GOODNESS
This song is such an inspiring song for married people, because it cuts through the fairy tale of day to day and it throws in the spiritual gifts of grace that we can't see, we can't prove, but they bring us through life toward new beginings. My feeling is inspiried.
This inspired is strengthening because it too is like that grace you can't see it but it has a profound effect on daily life.
This inspired would taste simple like vanilla pudding....light and perfect.
This inspired feeling would be like waking up to the best dream...the kind where you want to keep dreaming until it finishes.
My ranking for this inspired feeling is a 7++
Hey Walter I love you, because you are you. Lets pray for our Kids that they know the inspiration of Gods love --in all that faith can do.
Love you--write soon.
Dearest Marcy; Your finest quality today was taking us all to the SVDP Breakfast.
I enjoyed this song. It was uplifting and reminds me that each day is a new day; a good day and with faith, it is what we can make it. I always like to think no matter what happened yesterday, we can make today a good day; espically with you by my side.
When I listened to this song I feel thankful; thankful for you; for our family; for our faith. We have been raised from the ashes.
This thankful feeling is a warm hug from you in the morning; or a quite moment around the fire at night. Thankful for our marriage and our life together; faith & hope.
This feeling of thankful one I have after mass each week; it is an hour in adoration.
If it were a moment; family vacations; just so uplifting and exciting. A strong thankful.
If it were a color; glowing faces of gratitude when one does something special for others.
If it were a sound; Amazing Grace.
On a scale of 1-10; a strong 8++ Thankful;
Love Walter; Let's Pray for faith & hope for all that they might see the good in God's great works.
Wednesday, November 17, 2010
The Ascension
Then He led them out as far as Bethany, raised his hands, and blessed them. As he blessed them he parted from them and was taken up to heaven. They did him homage and then returned to Jerusalem with great joy, and they were continually in the temple praising God.
What are your feelings about this reading.
Dear Walter your most endearing quality today was getting the form faxed ASAP. DEDICATION
My feelings about the Ascension of our Lord Jesus Christ is the compelling witness of the truth. The truth of His life giving joy to us in our human nature. The truth that there is a promised heaven. The truth that a life well lived in Christ is a life lived in joy. This fills me with a powerful anticipating feeling. It is a very joyful feeling.
This joyful is much like christmas morning.....oh! the anticipation and the eagerness.
This joyful is like seeing the first snowfall of the year. It is so welcomed, new and exciting.
This joyful is like hearing a joke that actually makes you laugh....and you know how the joke ends before they even get there.... so, you are already laughing. I love that joyfulness feeling in particular.
This joyful would smell like a freshly peeled orange. The rank of this joyful would be a 9.
Walter I love you. Lets pray for our family as we approach advent this year. Let's pray that we as a family, live always in union with the church.
Dearest Marcy; Your finest quality today was listening to Ali with Such Patience. (sarcasm)
My feelings about this reading; Hope. I have strong feeling of Hope. Would that is full of Faith.
This hopeful faithful feeling is like my meditation at adoration.
This feeling of Hope is like thinking I will win the lottery this week - Hope.
It is also the feeling of praying for a sick or needy friend; Hope. A good feeling of Faith.
When I think of our children; especially in times of need, I have a feeling of Hope. It is something that keeps me going; along with Faith, in trying times. It is the peace Jesus brings me.
If it were a moment; trying to make my bus connection - Hope it does not leave me behind.
A color; green - go - hope.
A sound; birds chirpping in the morning; Hope of another beautiful day.
A moment; your warm embrace.
Scale of 1-10; 8+
Love Walter; Lets Pray for All Mothers that they may see their rightful place in Heaven; for they are the ones who give the world Hope.
Tuesday, November 16, 2010
colossians 3
Dear Walter your most endearing quality today was a loving call at lunch time. CARING
Lets see do I let the grace of Christ control my heart? My answer is: that is my goal in this life. This side of heaven. Yes, I want Christ to control my hearts responses. I want His peace to reign in my being. That is something that fluctuates in my life. There are times that peace is present and I am calm and quieted but frankly there are times that I am not a first reponder in peace. There are moments or situations in which I have to grow in Christ. An example of impatience for me, is equipment breaking or the pool turning green or any number of things I can't control, can cause this frustration.
This feeling of frustration would look like a neighborhood after a tornado hit. Just chaos. Not ordered and taken care of --it is chaos.
This frustration would be like going on a diet and not losing any weight at all.
This frustration would taste like lasagna without some of the key ingredients. Like sausage.
This frstration would rank a 7.
Walter I love you Lets pray.
Dearest Marcy; Your finest quality today is your fire for WWME & dialogue.
I believe I let Christ control the peace within me. I am not sure that its a peace of heart; but there is a peace within me.
I feel good about this. I would like to invite Christ more into my life and experience more peace.
This good feeling is a simple joyful feeling. I am joyful with the peace within me; but I do know that this peace could be shared with others if I invite Christ into my life more.
This feeling of good; it is like sitting back after a long day and saying it was a good day; not great; not perfect, but good.
This feeling of good is like dinner out; where a great feeling would be your lasanga.
If it were a color; all of the children healthy (no red burning faces).
If it were a sound; the children (especially Matt) playing the piano.
If it were a moment; a peaceful break at work; just time to re-group; good.
Scale of 1-10; a simple 7+;
Love Walter; Lets Pray